Arianne MacBean & Kate Anthony discuss Tough Sh!t
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast with Kate Anthony
Arianne MacBean writes, “Your anger is the spark of your inner fire.” As outlined in her upcoming book, Tough Shit: The Angry Woman’s Guide to Embodying Change, that spark is something every woman deserves to honor. This week she joins me for a conversation that’s all about reclaiming that fire and learning how to channel it into transformation.
Arianne is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles with a certificate in somatic psychotherapies and practices. We talk about the power of anger as a tool for self-knowledge, how the patriarchy taught us to suppress it, and why embracing it is one of the most radical acts of self-compassion a woman can take. Arianne also shares how her background as a dancer and choreographer shaped her somatic therapy work and how tuning into the body allows us to uncover what’s really beneath our anger: fear, sadness, hurt, and ultimately, truth. This conversation is such a beautiful reminder that anger isn’t something to fix, it’s something to feel, follow, and transform.
What you’ll hear about in this episode: -- Why anger is powerful information, not something to suppress (3:32) -- How somatic therapy connects movement, body awareness, and emotional healing (5:36) -- Ways to use anger as armor and as a guide toward deeper healing (13:20) -- The surprising history behind the phrase “tough shit” and Arianne’s reclamation of it (19:30) -- That there are men actually doing the inner work on themselves, facing hard truths, and learning to show up differently in relationships (34:35) Learn more about
Arianne MacBean: Arianne MacBean is a Somatic Psychotherapist, writer, and educator. She taught dance at the middle, high school, and college levels for over twenty years and was the Artistic Director of The Big Show Co., an LA-based dance-theater group. She holds a BA in Dance from UCLA, a Double MFA in Dance & Writing from California Institute of the Arts, and an MA in Counseling Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute. She works with individuals and couples to heal from trauma, learn healthy communication skills, and trust the body's wealth of wisdom.
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